Let me share something with you all: I've been wearing the same clothes since high school. I've always been a t-shirt and jeans type of guy who really didn't put much thought into what I wore. I believed that if my clothes were comfortable, I was good. I knew a lot about clothes because I live with a woman who has a closet as big as my Man Cave, but I lacked confidence when it came to fashion.
However, there has always been something inside of me, a little voice saying, "You can do better than a t-shirt and a pair of jeans. You're sexier than that." That voice sounded a lot like Sarah. I've wanted to step up my fashion game, but like a lot of other men, my lack of confidence kept getting in the way. I didn't feel confident enough to wear stylish clothing and have that "swagga."
I had no idea what type of clothing I was into which added to my confusion. When you can't figure out what you like it really makes being "fashionable" a challenge. My wife broke it down for me. Start by identifying your personal style. What do you like? What are your requirements in various situations: Do you need to be comfortable, conservative for work or do you want to get attention from the opposite sex and affirmation from your friends ("Make 'em want you or want to be you," as my wife says).
I've always been a preppy guy waiting to break free. My look did not reflect that at all. The clothes I wore were more of an urban style. You know, baggy jeans and shirts that were one size too big. This was not me, and this was not how I wanted to look.
I know now that when you look your best you feel better about yourself. This leads to an increase in your self-confidence. Having confidence doesn't change who you are, but it changes how you see yourself. It might even change how others see you. Face it guys, women want confident men. They're not interested in an insecure guy. Oh and ladies, trust me, men dig confident women.
Recently, my wife helped me find my swagger. She went shopping for me and found some clothes that she knew would help me look my best. My girl can shop (I should make her take a picture of her closet to prove my point). She realized that I'm a preppy guy and she knows fashion, so I don't have a problem with her dressing me. When she got home and I tried on those clothes, let me tell you, I felt like a new man. This was the style I've wanted for a long time. When I go out now, I'm not insecure about what I'm wearing or worried about what other people are thinking. I know I look good. Swagger!
When you have that confidence and swagger, you talk differently, walk with your head held high, and have a smile on your face because you know that you look hot. I believe the saying that confidence comes from within, but try a new look and you'll be amazed by how good you feel about yourself. Put some swagger in your style.
Before After (J.Crew v-neck and shorts,
Fast Facts about Me:: I am a Sagittarius. Wild Berry Skittles are my favorite candy. I am a huge Atlanta Braves fan. People would call me a "history buff." My wife and I enjoy travelling around the United States, and we are looking forward to a trip overseas.
T.I. with Jay-Z featuring Kanye West and Lil Wayne. "Swagger Like Us." Paper Trail. Grand Hustle, Atlantic, 2008. CD.